Daniel Wendler – Improve Your Social Skills

Daniel Wendler – Improve Your Social SkillsImprove Your Social Skills by Daniel Wendler
Published by CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform on September 12, 2014
Genres: Personal Growth, Self-Esteem, Self-Help, Social Science
Pages: 225
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Improve Your Social Skills is a comprehensive, practical guide to social skills.

It contains 200+ pages of step-by-step, easy-to-understand explanations of social interaction, written by a professional social skills coach whose TEDx talk on overcoming the social challenges of Asperger's Syndrome has been viewed over 130,000 times

You'll learn how to:

  • Make Conversation (and keep conversation flowing smoothly!)
  • Read Body Language (and send positive signals with your own body language!)
  • Meet New People (and make friends with them!)
  • Tell Stories In Conversation (that don't bore your audience!)
  • Combat Shyness And Social Anxiety (A little courage every day adds up!)
  • Date Successfully (without manipulation or sneaky tricks!)
  • And More!

My social life took a bit of a hit when I first fell ill almost 2 years ago now. I went from squatting twice my body weight at CrossFit, salsa dancing, performing fire shows and going out 3-4 times a week on just soda and lime to breaking down, becoming a recluse, feeling terrible all the time and completing GTA V, maxing out my Skyrim character and putting on 20kg.

Since leaving England I’ve been on a path of self improvement to get back to where I was. It was quite easy to be anti social and just train at Tiger Muay Thai which was awesome at the time but then we created an awesome little digital nomad posse there so I was forced to reintegrate with society so there have been some self help, social books like this in my reading list recently.

This book is pretty good, once again reaffirming everything I knew anyway but it’s good to keep the various elements in mind. You’re not going to make many new friends by sitting in a corner quietly and hoping everyone says hello to you, you’ve got to get up, go out, meet people and say hello. Simple.

Since moving to Barcelona I’ve made tons of friends, started going out several times a week in the evenings, been to awesome parties, been having fun days out on the beach, played volleyball all with out the social crutch of alcohol. I’m now 38 days ‘sober’ woohoo! Whilst I’m not going to attribute all of that to having read this book, I will testify that I am definitely using the social skills the book talks about. Social skills that most social people will intrinsically know already anyway.

If you aren’t very social, are a bit of an introvert and experience social anxiety this book is very good value and I definitely recommend it. By itself it won’t take away your anxieties and create a healthy social circle of friends for you, but it will create a self awareness of your social skills and give you a path to follow and a framework to work in to help you become more social.